Today’s post is written by Anne Ward. I am so glad that Anne signed up to do this portion of the purity series. As I said in yesterday’s blog we have divided the kids into 2 groups and will finish the series in week four as a co-ed group in our Youth worship.
Jesus Saves,
RR
Purity 101
First, i want everyone to choose a wedding dress and just hang on to it. We're going to be talking a little about getting married tonight, and you're going to need appropriate attire ; )
When i was a senior in high school, my best friend Julie and i spent a whole night looking at bride magazines and picking out dresses. If you can believe it, my mom made me one of the dresses i picked out that night for my actual wedding, so hang on to it, you might need it later.
Let's pray before we get into this uncomfortable subject matter : )
I. Purity
Purity. What is purity?
Let me give the textbook definition..
"freedom from contamination, from anything that would spoil the taste or the pleasure, reduce the power or in any way adulterate what the thing was meant to be"
What were we meant to be? …reflections of God, Himself.
Anything that keeps us from doing that causes us to be impure.
That purity doesn’t begin with sexual purity necessarily.
Certainly that is part of it, but it’s so much more than that.
It starts with our heart-attitude toward God.
In this series, our focus is sexual purity , but know that sexual purity is only one area, and it starts on the inside, with our hearts, not our bodies.
II. Sex
Since i used the "S" word, let's just go there... Sex.
What is it?
What is the definition of sex?
Is it sex only if it can get you pregnant?
And what is a virgin?
Well, you can't avoid sin if you don't know it's sin, right?
So, we've got to define what this "sin" is...
What is sex?
It’s not a trick question.
Webster's dictionary defines sex as "sexual intercourse".
But can our definition, as Christians, be different?
Absolutely!
Can you be a virgin according to the world and still be living in sin according to the Word of God?
Oh yeah!
Let's see what the Bible says...
1 Corinthians 6:16-20 (The Message)
16-20There's more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, "The two become one." Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever—the kind of sex that can never "become one." There is a sense in which sexual sins are different from all others. In sexual sin we violate the sacredness of our own bodies, these bodies that were made for God-given and God-modeled love, for "becoming one" with another. Or didn't you realize that your body is a sacred place, the place of the Holy Spirit? Don't you see that you can't live however you please, squandering what God paid such a high price for? The physical part of you is not some piece of property belonging to the spiritual part of you. God owns the whole works. So let people see God in and through your body.
Ephesians 5:3-4 (The Message)
3-4Don't allow love to turn into lust, setting off a downhill slide into sexual promiscuity, filthy practices, or bullying greed. Though some tongues just love the taste of gossip, those who follow Jesus have better uses for language than that. Don't talk dirty or silly. That kind of talk doesn't fit our style. Thanksgiving is our dialect.
Hebrews 13:4 (The Message)
Honor marriage, and guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between wife and husband. God draws a firm line against casual and illicit sex.
Romans 13:14 (Amplified)
14But clothe yourself with the Lord Jesus Christ (the Messiah), and make no provision for [indulging] the flesh [put a stop to thinking about the evil cravings of your physical nature] to [gratify its] desires (lusts).
God doesn't just deal with sex, does He?
He draws the line way before "sexual intercourse," as Webster defined it.
God says...Don't even let it get into your head.
So... anything that causes you to think about sex or anything you do to cause someone else to think about sex is sin, right? Wow!
III. Oops!
So, what does that mean for us?
Where does that mean we draw the line?
How far is too far?
Is it ok to kiss?
Is it ok to hold hands?
What do you girls think?
We're going to talk a lot more about those kinds of things next week.
That's your teaser to get you back next Wed ; )
But some of you may need to do some business in order to be ready for next week.
I am so grateful that God led Randy to offer this series at this time. Most of you are still so young that dating is really not even an issue yet, so thankfully, you will know how to deal with things before you're in the middle of them.
Some of you, however, are already dating and some of you may have already made some poor choices.
We haven't really discussed how far is too far, but some of you know that you've already gone too far. There's no question in your mind.
IV. Unconditional Love
I want to be really clear on this...
Although the choices you make certainly effect your relationship with the Lord, you cannot make enough bad decisions to effect His love for you. He is always available for you to come back.
So, if there are some of you who have crossed the line in your dating life, i want you to know that God is waiting with His arms open wide for you to return to Him.
All He requires is a brokeness over your sin and repentance, or turning from that sin. We're not going to stop for a time of response or anything like that, but if you do fall into that category, i am available to talk to you, or you can just spend some time with the Father in your bedroom at home.
I want everybody to write down Psalm 51 that way anyone who needs to repent will have those verses tonight after you're home.
God is the ultimate forgiver and restorer.
You cannot do anything that will ever trump His love for you...ever!
V. Betrothed
In 2 Corinthians 11:2-3 Paul says this,
2 Corinthians 11:2-3
2 For I am zealous for you with a godly eagerness and a divine jealousy, for I have betrothed you to one Husband, to present you as a chaste virgin to Christ
3 But [now] I am fearful, lest that even as the serpent beguiled Eve by his cunning, so your minds may be corrupted and seduced from wholehearted and sincere and pure devotion to Christ.
Paul was jealous for the church members at Corinth because he had been the officiating minister at their engagement to God.
Does that make any sense at all?
As believers, we are betrothed to God. Betrothal is more serious than an engagement, but that's the closest thing we have. One major difference being that when girls were betrothed to their future mate, the groom's family paid a dowry or a down payment to secure the bride for their son.
Are you ready?! This is awesome stuff!
Jesus is the Dowry, or Down Payment, that was paid for our marriage to the King of Kings. That's how much God wanted us to marry Him.
He bought us with His Son!
Girls. how can we take that for granted and chase after anything else?!
When we come to know God through, His Son, Jesus Christ, we enter into a betrothal contract; we are engaged to marry Jesus.
Does that sound weird to you?
If it does, that's because this world has sold us the lie that we need something else... that God is not enough. And it's just that, a lie!!!
hand out & read "Courted by the Creator"
God is head over heels in love with us. We don't think of the relationship we have with God as an emotional, love relationship, but it is! Or at least He desires for it to be.
In Philippians, Paul says that at the name of Jesus, every knee should bow. (Philippians 2:9-11)
That gives a whole new meaning to "weak knees", doesn't it?
I want the name of our Betrothed to make us "weak in the knees".
If It doesn't, pray for that kind of love for Jesus!
I pray for it all the time!
VI. Theme and Ribbons
A. "More Like Fallin' in Love"
I chose us a theme song for this series too. I'm sure you've heard it...
It's "More Like Fallin' in Love" by Jason Gray.
(hand out lyrics)
Here's why i chose this song...
Somehow we have made relationship with God some unemotional, contract that we sign in order to receive our get-out-of-hell-free-card.
But it's not!
God is in love with us, and i believe it breaks His heart that we are not in love with Him.
Jesus.
say It with me... Jesus.
Girls, that name is powerful, and It should make our little hearts pitter patter more than any great guy we will ever meet on this earth.
B. Purple Ribbons
As a symbol of our betrothal, and to give you a visual reminder of your engagement to Jesus Christ, as well as, to remind you to pray for true purity, i have purple ribbons for us.
They are purple because, as believers, we are daughters of God, daughters of the King...or, as i like to say, princesses, and purple is symbolic of royalty.
You didn't know you were royalty, did ya?
And, more importantly, you didn't know i was royalty!
So, let's tie these on our left wrist, since that's the closest one to our hearts. And keep this, at least, until we finish this series or longer if you want.
C. A Love Story
Really, our lives are like great novels or movies.
And, we often think that we are the main character, but we shouldn't be.
The main character is God.
And, did i mention it's a love story?!
In fact, it's the greatest love story ever!
Spoiler alert!!! ...
In the end, we get the God!!!
Not the guy! ...the God!
Revelation 16:6-9 (The Message)
6-8Then I heard the sound of massed choirs, the sound of a mighty cataract, the sound of strong thunder:
Hallelujah!
The Master reigns,
our God, the Sovereign-Strong!
Let us celebrate, let us rejoice,
let us give him the glory!
The Marriage of the Lamb has come;
his Wife (that's us) has made herself ready.
She was given a bridal gown
of bright and shining linen.
The linen is the righteousness of the saints.
9The Angel said to me, "Write this: 'Blessed are those invited to the Wedding Supper of the Lamb.'" He added, "These are the true words of God!"
Do you have your wedding dresses. Well, you won't need 'em. Our Groom and His Dad are gonna take care of our dresses. How awesome is that?! We don't even have to worry about what to wear!
Come back next week. That's when we're going to put the rubber to the road, so to speak. We're going to look at some very specific things you can do to remain pure. And you pray before you come, because some of the things i'm gonna say might be hard to hear.
Pray.
...Purity 101 Worksheet to take home...